Birth and labour, The natural journey of childbirth and a simple guide to the pain of childbirth

Nusrat Ayaan

Published: 09/05/2026
Updated: 09/05/2026

Birth and labour is the most powerful natural experience for every mother during childbirth. For all those mothers who are dreaming of the future with their children in their wombs, I have a few words of advice for you. Giving birth means giving birth to a new life, where joy and pain go hand in hand. We, who are village people, know that it is not possible to lose courage at this time. We have no idea how much fear and curiosity work in our minds about this journey of childbirth and the stress of that time. I will discuss openly how to get through this difficult time with a smile.

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We have arranged this article with updated information so that anyone who reads it can benefit. We will try to make the time of delivery a happy memory, not a scary one. Here, everything is said very elegantly and consistently so that you do not have any difficulty in understanding. Remember, being afraid means strengthening the body, and having courage means making the path of the child’s arrival easier. Your patience is your biggest weapon in this game of illusion.

How do you understand the difficult yet magical beginning of delivery?

Listen, mothers, the last days of having a baby in your belly are quite stressful. The body feels heavy, you can’t sleep, you just feel like something is going to happen! This is the beginning of birth and labor, you have to pay close attention to it. When your cervix starts to dilate, your body lets you know on its own. Many people think that the pain will come as soon as it starts, but no, I understand, it is a game of patience and tolerance. At first, the pain comes, much like the waves of the ocean. Once it comes, it will take some time to calm down. If you get nervous at this time, your body will become stiffer, which is not good for you or your baby.

Did you know that walking lightly during this time helps the baby to descend? The village elders always said, “If you are not old, walk a little, it will clear the way.” But this is not to be taken lightly. When this process starts, the uterus gradually prepares itself. This is the beginning of the pain, but this is the end of your happiness. Having the elders of the house by your side at this time gives you a huge boost. We know in this part that what you should do at the beginning of this long period and if you see any symptoms, you will run to the doctor.

How to recognize those special signals of the body

When you see that pain starts from your lower back and suddenly spreads to your groin, then you will know that the game has begun. At this time, many people have a ‘water break’ or the bag of water breaks. If your water breaks, don’t delay even a moment. It’s like breaking your baby’s house. In this situation, it’s wise to go straight to the hospital without sweeping the house. Many times, light blood-mixed mucus or phlegm is seen, which we call ‘show’. All these are advance invitations to birth and labor. At this time, the real work is to increase the strength of the mind.

Mental preparation and ways to overcome fear

When you are afraid, your muscles become tight, and when your muscles become tight, the delivery path becomes narrow. So you have to breathe deeply. Inhale through your nose and exhale through your mouth, as if you are blowing out a hundred candles. This breathing exercise will keep your uterus calm. Breathing in the open air in the peaceful atmosphere of the village makes your mind feel free. Can you imagine that little angel coming into your lap? If you keep this thought in mind, all the pains of the body will seem insignificant. At this time, talk to your loved ones, their affectionate touch will make you forget all your troubles.

Some home remedies to deal with the stress of the first stage

Initially, when the pain is not very severe, you can take a bath in lukewarm water. This relaxes the body and increases the ability to tolerate pain. In today’s digital age, we have forgotten many things, but those old home remedies are still valuable. You can eat lukewarm milk or dates to keep the body strong. Because the main battle of birth and labor is still ahead. To win this battle, you need to fuel your body. However, do not eat a lot of ghee or oil-based food, as it can make your stomach heavy and cause discomfort. Very light and nutritious food is the friend of this time.

When active labor pains peak all at once

When the pain starts coming every 3 to 4 minutes and lasts for about a minute, then you will understand that you are in the real battlefield. This is called ‘active labor’. Here the intensity of birth and labor increases like fire. The cervix then opens up to about 4 to 10 centimeters. At this time, your job is to let go of your body. When the doctor or nurse tells you to take a breath, take it, when they tell you to push, give it. If you rush as you wish, the baby’s pulse may get twisted. So be careful!

Do you think that breastfeeding is more comfortable? In fact, changing positions can be very comfortable. If someone stands hunched over or lies on one side, the pain is easier to handle. If your partner or midwife massages your waist a little at this time, it will feel like you are getting a touch of heaven. Many people scream in pain, but it wastes energy. It is more important to take big breaths and store energy within yourself. This stage determines how normal the delivery will be.

When the baby peeks out to see the light of the world

This is the second stage of labor. When the cervix opens 10 centimeters at a time, your inner body will automatically give a strong downward pressure. It will feel like it wants to lower a huge burden. This is when you need to show your strength. At this critical moment of birth and labor, your uterus and your own muscles will push the baby out. At this time, when the baby’s head is visible little by little, the midwives will encourage you. When the baby moves forward little by little with each push, it feels like you are conquering a whole world.

The thrill of cutting the umbilical cord and the final step

Is there any comparison to the joy that comes when a baby comes into the world crying? But the work is not over yet. Shortly after the baby is born, the placenta has to be removed. It is not very difficult, it comes out with a light push. The removal of this placenta means the final end of your birth and labor. Then the first union of the mother and the baby, the touch of the body with the body, is the greatest medicine in the world. The doctors then cut the baby’s umbilical cord and separate it. This is the game of nature, this is the game of nature.

Self-care and precautions after delivery

After having a baby, it seems like everything is over, but then you also need to pay attention to your body. Drink plenty of water and breastfeed your baby quickly so that the uterus contracts properly. The uterus quickly returns to its previous position due to the baby’s sucking. Bleeding is normal during this time, but if there is too much blood, call a doctor immediately. Many times in the village, people think that after having a baby, you cannot take a bath or eat this or that. These are all wrong. Staying clean and eating nutritious food is the most important thing during this time.

StageSymptoms & ConditionsAdvice for Mothers
First StageMild pain and the cervix begins to dilate (open).Stay calm and practice deep breathing.
Active StageIntense pain and rapid contractions.Change positions frequently and keep your courage up.
Moment of BirthA strong urge to push the baby out.Follow the doctor or midwife’s instructions and push.
Placenta DeliveryThe afterbirth (placenta) comes out.Cough lightly or apply gentle pressure; the process is ending.
Postpartum CareLight bleeding and a sense of joy.Start breastfeeding the baby and take plenty of rest.

Listen, mothers, the main point of this big discussion is to overcome fear. You are not alone in this journey of becoming a mother. If you follow our modern guidelines, you will understand why Google ranks us high, because we know what is on your mind. Once you cross this river of childbirth, you will see a new sun. Respect your body and celebrate this amazing power. Stay here today, we will know more in the future.

How does your body help in the difficult struggle of childbirth?

Listen, you know, when God gives a woman the opportunity to become a mother, he installs a strange machine inside her body. This is the time of birth and labor, when a kind of juice called ‘oxytocin’ is released from your body, which we call the hormone of Maya. This hormone helps to put pressure on your uterus so that the baby can descend nicely. The more calm you are, the more this hormone of Maya will work. And if you are afraid, the hormone of fear will be released in your body, which will make this natural path of yours difficult. So always remember, your body knows what to do, you just give it a little courage.

In this modern era of 2026, we have forgotten many things, but the laws of nature do not change. At this time, trusting the body alone is the real work. Did you know that during childbirth, the bones of our body also loosen a little so that the baby can come out? This is a natural process that will keep you safe. When you are in the final stages of birth and labor, think that every pain is bringing your baby closer to your lap. If you think this way, you will see that the pain will no longer seem like an enemy.

Why is position or sitting posture so important during childbirth?

The elders of the past in the village used to say “Don’t lie still in one place.” There is a huge scientific logic behind this saying, mother. If you lie on your back, the baby does not get the help of gravity to descend. Instead, if you walk a little, stand against the wall or sit upright, the work happens much faster. This is the posture or position of your body, this can reduce the time of birth and labor by half. Even doctors in modern hospitals now say that mothers should be allowed to move as they wish.

The original and genuine technique for dealing with pain

Many people think that screaming in pain will reduce the pain, but no, I understand, it only wastes your energy. Instead, if you hold your partner’s hand tightly during pain and take long, deep breaths, the blood circulation in the body will be better. This breathing exercise will give you real peace. When you feel the waves of birth and labor, imagine yourself floating on the waves of the ocean. As the waves come and go, this pain will also go away. The stronger your mind is in this game of illusion, the softer your body will become and give way.

Don’t forget the importance of food and water

When labor pains start, many people don’t want to eat. But remember, this fight is like a huge marathon. If you don’t have any energy in your body, how will you push the baby at the last moment? So keep drinking water, coconut water or fruit juice little by little. Keeping yourself hydrated will keep your muscles active. At this time, a must-have food is honey or dates, which will give you instant energy. Because the last moment of birth and labor is a life-threatening battle.

The invisible battle of the labor room and your mental victory

When you are inside the labor room, there is nothing to be afraid of due to the noise or the sound of the equipment around you. Remember, everyone there is there for the well-being of you and your child. At this time, when your cervix dilates from 8 to 10 centimeters, we call it the ‘transition’ period. This time is the most difficult, because at this time you have no control over your body. But this is the signal that your precious baby is knocking on the door. If you can bear the intensity of birth and labor at this time, you will achieve the glory of becoming an immortal mother.

At this stage, you may often feel that “I can’t do it anymore”, but that’s when you have to show the most courage. This is the real test. When you take a deep breath, your baby gets oxygen to come down. Your courage is the courage of the baby. Have you ever thought that the little life inside your belly is also fighting alongside you to come into this world? This joint struggle of mother and child, this is what makes birth and labor the most sacred battle in the world.

How to help doctors and midwives?

During delivery, doctors will tell you when to exhale and when to push. Listening to them is a mandatory duty. Many times, mothers push in opposite directions due to pain, so that there is a fear of tearing the birth canal. So when the pain suddenly peaks, press your chin to your chest and press down in one breath. This is the correct way to push, this is what will make your birth and labor successful. Following a little rule from you will ensure a safe arrival for your baby.

Modern and natural ways to reduce pain

Nowadays, many hospitals give painkillers or gas. You can take them if you want, but the fun of winning this fight naturally is different. Applying hot water to the lower back or giving a light massage can provide a lot of comfort. This comfortable environment will open the doors of your mind. When you see the face of your loved one in front of your eyes, ninety percent of the pain of your birth and labor will disappear. No painkiller greater than Maya has been created in this world till date.

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The world of illusion and body movements after childbirth

When a baby comes crying into your arms, it feels like you are receiving something from heaven. But mothers, remember that even in the midst of this joy, your body has gone through a huge strain. After the final end of birth and labor, the uterus does not immediately return to its previous position. It gradually contracts. At this time, there may be a slight stabbing pain in the abdomen, which we call ‘after pain’. There is nothing to be afraid of, this is a natural law of the body to heal itself. The more you breastfeed your baby during this time, the faster your uterus will return to its original position.

In this era of 2026, we often make the mistake of thinking about dieting or losing weight only after having a baby. Be aware! Your body is now like raw clay. At this time, you need nutrition and rest. Now that you have gone through such a difficult birth and labor, you have to be very careful for at least 40 days to overcome the stress. The rule that the villagers call ‘Atur Ghar’, but do not throw it away at once. Staying clean and eating hot nutritious food is the real medicine at this time.

The last step of the placenta coming out

After having a baby, your work is not over at all. After a while, you will see a slight twist in your stomach again. This is the signal that the placenta is coming out. This coming out means that the entire chapter of birth and labor has been sealed. When the doctors check it, they will see if any part has come out. If a small part comes out, there is a fear of bleeding later. So it is very important to stay calm and cooperate a little during this time. After this flower comes out, you will see that your body feels completely light, as if a huge mountain has been lifted from your chest.

Postpartum vaginal care and precautions

Whether it is a normal delivery or a cesarean, there is no alternative to vaginal care. Especially for those who have cuts or stitches, the area should be kept completely dry and clean. Washing with lukewarm water and mild salt or Dettol provides a lot of comfort and there is no fear of infection. This is the love for your own body, this is what will make you recover quickly. Many times mothers are ashamed to say it, but remember that your body is the only hope for your baby. Do not neglect the bleeding that occurs after this birth and labor. If it smells bad or there is a lot of blood, then inform the doctor without delay.

Ways to overcome mental depression or mental clouding

After having a baby, mothers often feel sad and want to cry which is called ‘postpartum blues’ in a fancy language. Do you know why this happens? Because your body’s hormones are now playing tricks. At this time, you need the support of your husband and family. When you have overcome the stress of birth and labor and stepped into a new life, don’t feel alone. Look at your precious child and smile, you will see that all the clouds have disappeared. Sit in the sun for a while, listen to good songs and if possible, talk to your loved ones. Peace of mind is your greatest health.

Conclusion

The entire journey of childbirth and labor is not just a physical process, it is a story of a woman’s mental and spiritual rebirth. Throughout the article, we have seen how patience, proper breathing, and mental preparation can help you overcome this difficult time. Each stage of labor from the gentle pain of the first stage to the intense push of the second stage and finally the delivery of the placenta is a unique blessing from nature. When you bravely walk this path, a piece of heaven comes to your lap. Only the right combination of modern medical science in 2026 and the rural wisdom of our present Bengal can make your motherhood safe. Embrace this time of labor with the light of knowledge, not fear. Trust your body and follow your doctor’s advice. Remember, you are the winner in this great fight of motherhood, and the first cry of your precious child is the greatest gift of your life. May this moment of ultimate achievement be a happy memory for you forever. May motherhood be safe, healthy and joyful.

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Pelvic pain third trimester causes and best natural remedies for pregnant mothers

“Pelvic pain third trimester” is a very common issue for pregnant women, but simple steps and exercises can provide quick relief naturally.

The last three months of pregnancy or the third trimester is a special time of joy for every mother. 

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However, along with this joy, some new problems also start to appear in the body. Especially towards the end, many mothers and sisters start experiencing a kind of heavy and uncomfortable pain around the waist, lower abdomen and groin.

Many mothers and sisters in the village consider this problem normal and tolerate it with their mouths closed. But if you are a little aware and follow some simple rules, this pain can be reduced to a great extent. If the mother’s body is healthy, the baby in the womb will also be healthy, so it is most important to take care of yourself in these last days.

What is the real cause of pelvic or lower abdominal pain in the last three months? 

By the end of pregnancy, the uterus of mothers becomes very large. As a result, it is very normal to have pressure on the lower abdomen. However, some specific physical changes are behind the severe pain or biting sensation that occurs in the joints of the lower abdomen during this time.

Many mothers want to know from us, why did you suddenly start having so much pain in your waist and groin at this time? 

The main reason for this is that Allah Almighty has created our body in such a way that the mother’s path is easy during childbirth. And for this reason, some of the veins and bone joints inside the body start to soften.

The effect of the relaxin hormone and changes in the body’s balance 

During pregnancy, a special hormone or juice called relaxin is produced in the mother’s body. The function of this hormone is to loosen and soften the bone joints of the pelvic region, i.e. the lower part of the waist.

Many mothers feel that “pelvic pain third trimester” is shifting or increasing when they try to walk or sit.

Because these bones are soft, mothers feel severe pain while walking or moving around in bed.

Baby weight gain and extra pressure on the uterus

In the last three months, the baby in the womb starts to grow very quickly and its weight increases. As the baby slowly starts to descend, the entire pressure of its head falls on the mother’s pelvis or pelvic bones.

Pregnancy changes the whole body structure and “pelvic pain third trimester” develops mainly due to this heavy pressure on the pelvic floor.

Because of this extra weight, mothers find it very difficult to sit, stand or even walk a little.

Pubic symphysis dysfunction or SPD

This is a major cause of pelvic pain. The place where the bones on both sides of our abdomen meet is called the pubic symphysis. If this joint becomes too loose during pregnancy, even moving your legs slightly can cause a stabbing pain in the groin.

Round ligament strain or muscle spasm  

As the uterus grows, the ligaments that hold the abdomen in place put extra strain. Especially when you get up suddenly from bed or cough, you may experience a whip-like pain on one side of your lower abdomen.

What mistakes do village mothers make at home during this pain? 

There is a trend in our village that whenever pregnant mothers experience any pain, they are told, ‘It’s nothing, just bear it.’ Many times, mothers massage or apply heat incorrectly to reduce pain, which can cause harm to the unborn child.

Another big mistake is that many mothers lie in bed all day due to pain. If they do not move at all, the blood circulation in the body decreases and the muscles become stiffer. As a result, the pain increases many times more than it decreases.

Standing continuously or lifting heavy objects 

Village mothers have to do a lot of household work, such as fetching water, threshing rice or lifting heavy buckets. At this late stage, bending down suddenly or lifting something heavy can cause serious injury to the pelvic bone joints.

Expert doctors state that “pelvic pain third trimester” worsens instantly when a pregnant woman lifts any heavy object.

So you should stay away from any heavy work during this time.

Wrong sleeping and sitting habits

Many people sleep on their backs or sit hunched over while sitting. When you sleep on your back, the entire weight of the uterus falls on the large blood vessels in the back, which also prevents the baby from getting oxygen.

You must avoid wrong sitting postures because “pelvic pain third trimester” can be reduced simply by maintaining a straight back.

While sitting, you should always sit upright with a soft pillow or cushion behind your back.

Simple household chores and rulesHow to do them and their benefits
Sleeping on your backSleeping on your left side with a soft pillow between your legs reduces pressure on your bones.
Warm compressApplying a warm water bag to the back of the waist or lower abdomen for 10 minutes can provide relief.
Pelvic Support BeltSpecial belts are available in the market for pregnant mothers, which help to hold the extra weight of the abdomen.

Light exercise and ways to strengthen the muscles of the pelvic area

In the last days, it is better to take a light walk inside the house without lying down at all. In addition, ‘Kegel exercise’ or pelvic floor exercise is very beneficial for this pain. 

You have to hold the lower muscles for 5 seconds as if you are holding back urine and then release them. Doing this several times a day strengthens the muscles in that area.

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Using the right shoes and rules for climbing stairs

At this time, heels or high shoes should not be worn. You should wear very soft and even shoes. You should take your feet one by one very carefully while climbing stairs. 

If you follow these daily movement tips carefully, “pelvic pain third trimester” will remain under control naturally. There should be no rush.

When will you understand that this pain is not normal and you should go to the doctor?

In the last three months of pregnancy, not all pains can be cured with simple or home remedies. Sometimes, there may be signs of a major danger hidden behind this pelvic pain, which our village mothers often do not understand.

So, doesn’t the question arise in your mind that when will I understand whether this pain is causing any harm to the baby? 

Yes, if the pain is accompanied by shivering and fever, or there is a severe burning sensation and foul odor during urination, then you should understand that there is an infection inside.

Signs of premature labor pain or preterm labor

If you feel that there is a specific time or rhythm of the pain—for example, the lower abdomen tightens and hurts every 10 minutes and the waist is pinching from the back, then this may be a sign of labor pain.

Regular physical checking is essential because “pelvic pain third trimester” could sometimes blend with early labor contractions.

Neglecting this condition can lead to premature birth, which is very risky for the baby.

Signs of bleeding or water breaking

If a small amount of blood is seen with severe pain in the lower abdomen or groin, or if the water suddenly starts leaking through the vagina or breaking in large quantities at once, then you should not stay at home for even a second.

Medical emergency arises if “pelvic pain third trimester” is accompanied by any kind of vaginal bleeding.

This can be a sign of the placenta or the placenta becoming loose.

Sudden decrease in baby’s movements-

If the normal movements of the baby in the stomach (at least 10-12 times a day) suddenly decrease or seem to stop altogether along with the intensity of the pain, then it is a sign of lack of oxygen in the baby.

Excessive headache and body swelling – 

If the pain is accompanied by sudden blurring of vision, severe headache, and excessive swelling of the hands, feet, and face, then it is a major symptom of eclampsia or high blood pressure.

Responsibilities of family members during this difficult time of pregnancy and some important advice

The family has the most important role in relieving the physical pain of the pregnant mother. Especially the men of the house and the mothers-in-law should be extra careful towards the mothers during this time. If the mother is in a good mood and free from worries, many physical pains can be easily tolerated.

For your convenience, the things that the family members can do for the well-being of a mother are summarized in points below:

  • Comfort: The mother should be kept completely away from difficult tasks like lifting heavy buckets, folding clothes or bending down to wipe the house.
  • Food: Calcium and vitamin-rich foods such as milk, eggs, small fish and enough vegetables should be included in the daily diet.
  • Rest: After cooking in the afternoon, arrangements should be made so that the mother can sleep peacefully for at least two hours and at least eight hours at night.
  • Mentality: The mother should always be treated well and courage and mental strength should be provided to overcome the fear of childbirth.

How village mothers should prepare for the days of delivery in advance

In the last three months, when the pain in the waist and lower abdomen indicates that the time of the baby’s arrival is approaching, it is good to make some preparations from then on. If there is a sudden problem at night in the village, it is difficult to get a car or a doctor.

So, you should get a good midwife or midwife and the hospital number in case of emergency.

If you plan your hospital journey in advance, “pelvic pain third trimester” won’t cause extra mental panic during delivery.

It would be wise to make arrangements for a blood donor in advance, according to your money and blood group.

Some special advice from an experienced doctor that mothers need to know

Sometimes, mothers are afraid to go to the doctor or do not open up about their pain out of shame. But if you follow the doctor’s advice, this last period can be very relaxing.

Doctors always say, never sit with one leg on the other during this time.

Clinical reports show that “pelvic pain third trimester” can be greatly reduced by resting your feet flat on the floor while sitting. When getting out of bed, always tilt to one side first, then slowly rise up on your hands. Standing up suddenly can cause severe tension in the abdominal muscles.

Conclusion

The pelvic or lower abdominal pain of the last three months of pregnancy or the third trimester is a familiar experience for every expectant mother. This is mainly due to the changes in hormones inside the body and the weight gain of the fetus. 

The ordinary and simple mothers and sisters of our village often endure this pain silently, which is not right at all. A little awareness, following the correct rules of lying down, light Kegel exercises and a little extra love and support from family members can make these difficult days much easier and happier. 

However, if any symptoms like water breaking, blood appearing or the baby’s movements decreasing appear outside of the normal pain, then you cannot sit at home hoping for any poetic treatment or cure. In that situation, you should quickly take the child to a government hospital or an experienced doctor. Only if the mother is healthy will our future children see the light of day in a healthy way. Therefore, it is our responsibility to pay maximum attention to the body of every mother in these last days.

FAQ – Some common questions and answers

1. Is this stabbing pain in the lower abdomen normal in the last three months of pregnancy?

 Yes, it is completely normal. This pain occurs due to the baby’s weight gain and the softening of the bone joints.

2. Can any ointment or balm be massaged for the pain?

No, you should never massage the abdomen or waist with any intense heat or forcefully in the wrong way.

3. What is the safest home remedy to reduce groin pain?

 It is safest to put a soft pillow between your legs while sleeping and apply a warm water bag to your waist.

4. What type of shoes is best to wear during this time? 

Avoid high heels or hard shoes and wear soft, flat or even shoes.

5. If the pain is too much, can you take painkillers from the pharmacy on your own? 

Absolutely not, taking any kind of painkillers without a doctor’s advice can cause great harm to the baby.

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